"The Millenials are Coming" -- Managing Millennials

As if you didn't have enough management challenges, check out this story, from the November 11 broadcast of CBS news' "60 Minutes". Correspondent Morley Safer talks to researchers and analysts about the psychology and outlook of the so-called millenial generation. Be warned: It's a little scary.

"There are about 80 million of them, born between 1980 and 1995, and they're rapidly taking over from the baby boomers who are now pushing 60. They were raised by doting parents who told them they are special, played in little leagues with no winners or losers, or all winners. They are laden with trophies just for participating and they think your business-as-usual ethic is for the birds. [Don't boss them around, or speak to them too harshly...] And if you persist in the belief you can, take your job and shove it."

See? Maybe "scary" is a bit much, but definitely "daunting" and "formidable" when one considers the difference this generation may require in our approaches to management.

Features of this coming generation, according to the story, include:

• Most are hardworking (great!)
• They know and can operate the tools to get things done (also great!)
• They are impressively clever and resourceful (really great!)
• Some of them are absolutely incorrigible(uh-oh)
• "It's their way or the highway. The rest of us are old, redundant, should be retired." (What?!)

Researchers who have studied the millenial generation say a new style of management is required to get results from this cohort of workers.

• "Speak to them a little bit like a therapist on television might speak to a patient."
• "You can't be harsh."
• "You cannot tell them you're disappointed in them. "
• "You can't really ask them to live and breathe the company. Because they're living and breathing themselves and that keeps them very busy."
• "The era of the buttoned down exec happy to have a job is as dead as the three-Martini lunch." "These young people will tell you what time their yoga class is and the day's work will be organized around the fact that they have this commitment. So you actually envy them. How wonderful it is to be young and have your priorities so clear."
• "The flipside of it is how awful it is to be managing the extension, sort of, of the teenage babysitting pool."

Researcher Mary Crane said: "You now have a generation coming into the workplace that has grown up with the expectation that they will automatically win, and they'll always be rewarded, even for just showing up," Crane says.

Safer responded: "To what extent are you having to tell the boomers, the bosses, the 50- to 60-year-olds, 'The people who got to change are you guys, not them?'" Yeah! Why do current managers have to change? What we're doing is working.

Unfortunately, it may not continue to work going into the future. Previous generations are accustomed to doing what it takes to produce results, and if we're dealing with an entire new generation of workers that require a different approach, we're going to have to make some adjustments, apparently.

Crane: "The boomers do need to hear the message, that they're gonna have to start focusing more on coaching rather than bossing. If this generation in particular, you just tell them, 'You got to do this. You got to do this. You got to do this.' They truly will walk. And every major law firm, every major company knows, this is the future."

You heard it... coaching rather than bossing. Participative management rather than dictating. Providing guidance and resources, focusing on results rather than methods... basically all the things that my boss, Krissi Barr, has been teaching her clients for years.

Krissi Barr is an expert in coaching. I know, because I work for her. You only have to talk to her, or to me, once to know how motivating and encouraging she is, while not coddling or wasting time with things that make no contribution to the bottom line. As her associate, I (Jodi) wholeheartedly affirm that if anyone can teach other managers how to deal with the millennial generation, it's Krissi Barr.

That's my firsthand recommendation, but you don't have my word for it.

She's trained in and certified to teach Paul Hersey's Situational Leadership program, as well as Coach 4 Success, Will to Win, and many incredibly practical and inspirational techniques. (See bio).

It's not just her curriculum vitae that impresses. Doing the various administrative and professional tasks I do as her "jill-of-all-trades", I've seen her at work, seen what she accompishes with people. After my interview with her, I researched the management and leadership training business as a whole. I came to the conclusion that many people out there are offering, in essence, modern-day "snake oil," and asked her about it. She confirmed, "There are lots of consultants out there. What matters is pull-through."

Over the next few months of assembling client data into spreadsheets, being cc'd on e-mails to her clients, seeing clients recommendation letters and their e-mails of gratitude, I realized that she is the "real deal."

Serious stuff, how she works with clients. The programs are just the start for her.

Krissi didn't just take her training and use it to sell programs -- she trains, but also does follow-up, coaching, and ongoing accountability measurement. She has enough passion for and commitment to the work that she does to follow her clients, ensuring that their new knowledge is ingrained such that it becomes behavior, and even habit, to the benefit of all who have worked with her.

The coming generation of "millennials" will be a challenge to those who are accustomed to the previous generations of direct reports. If you thought Gen X'ers were difficult... well, we're all in for a bumpy ride. If you are already experiencing rough terrain with your teams, whatever their generation, I encourage you to call Krissi (513.470.8980) or e-mail her (krissi@barrcorporatesuccess.com).

"The No As*h@#!@ Rule"

We apologize for using a word that may offend the sensibilities of some. We'll alternate between the vulgarity, and the more accepted "jerk." We hope that after reading, you'll agree it's worth discussing.

As you can tell from the length of the post, we like the book. Read it!

Stanford University professor and Robert Sutton has not only legitimized the word "asshole" in business conversation -- he's made it practically unavoidable.

"It all started in 2003 with a half-serious proposal that I made to Harvard Business Review, when their senior editor Julia Kirby asked if I had any suggestions for HBR's annual list of 'Breakthrough Ideas.' I told Julia that the best business practice I knew of was the 'no asshole rule.'"

Despite Sutton's expectation that no such title would ever be published by HBR, the article was embraced, and drew so much media attention that he followed it up with the frank, amusing and well-researched book, very directly titled The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn't. If you're actively dealing with a jerk, read it. You may find help with your current situation, and at worst, will better be able to recognize and avoid assholes in the future.

Sutton offers welcoming reassurance to anyone who has ever thought, "I don't care how productive this guy/woman is, it's just not worth it to put up with him/her."

Experts agree, and for sound business reasons. Assholes are not worth it. Sutton shows that whatever numbers the jerk generates in terms of individual sales or productivity, more comprehensive metrics prove that jerks take a tremendous toll on morale, overall productivity, and unnecessary turnover.

A partial list of factors Sutton suggested we consider when calculating TCA (Total Cost of Assholes)

• Distraction from tasks, the effort devoted to avoiding unpleasant exchanges, recovering from them, avoiding blame.
• Damaged sense of safety and an environment of fear that discourages "discretionary effort," suggestions, risk-taking, learning from own and others' failures, and honest discussion.
• Reduced motivation and energy at work.
• Stress-induced physical and emotional illness.
• Potentially impaired mental acuity.
• Continual and ongoing bullying transforms targets into assholes.
• Absenteeism
• Turnover due to asshole's abusive supervision, plus time spent looking for new job while at work
• Costs of victims' retribution toward the company.
• "Combat pay" for those who stay.
• Time spent "cooling out" victimized customers, contract employees, suppliers, outsiders, and internal employees who are victimized.
• Settlement fees and successful litigation by both victims, and alleged assholes (wrongful termination claims).
• Increased health insurance costs.

When those factors are considered, it becomes apparent that assholes cost more than they are worth. Add in the damage to personal lives, marriages, and other relationships, and assholes become a toxin that must be removed.

Have you experienced or witnessed any of Sutton's "Dirty Dozen"?

These are common everyday actions that assholes use.

• Personal insults
• Invading ones "personal territory"
• Uninvited physical contact
• Threats & intimidation, both verbal and non-verbal
• Sarcastic 'jokes' and 'teasing' used as insult delivery systems
• Withering e-mail flames
• Status slaps intended to humiliate
• Public shaming or 'status degradation' rituals
• Rude interruptions
• Two-faced attacks
• Dirty looks
• Treating people as if they're invisible

If you haven't, then you're among the lucky few. Sutton cites one study showing that 27 percent of workers in a representative sample of Michigan residents experienced mistreatment by someone in the workplace, with one in six reporting persistent psychological abuse. And a 1997 study of 130 U.S. nurses found that an astounding 90 percent reporting being victims of verbal abuse from physicians during the previous year.

If you have, then you're obviously not alone. We empathize. Without real concrete incentive to change, such as forceful intervention from higher-level management or powerbrokers, it is difficult to stop an asshole. While some are unaware of the effect their behavior has on those around them, others may simply not care, or not be able to control themselves.

Sutton writes of several levels of asshole:

• "Temporary assholes" are having a bad day or moment. Miscommunications and frustrating situations can at times bring out the worst in all of us. All of us have probably offended, if only by rolling ones eyes during a difficult meeting. As long as offenses are infrequent, apologized for, and an isolated aberration from usually friendly, respectful behavior, temporary assholes are part of life.
• "Certified assholes" are workplace polluters who "display a persistent pattern of episodes that end with one 'target' after another feeling belittled, put down, humiliated, disrespected, oppressed, de-energized, and generally worse about themselves."
• "Flaming assholes"... 'nuff said.
• "Two-faced backstabbers" are particularly noxious weeds. They "have enough skill and emotional control to save their dirty work for moments when they can't get caught, and are much tougher to stop, even though they do as much damage as a raging maniac."

Sutton proposes two steps for detecting assholes: find those who persistently leave others feeling demeaned and de-energized; then look to see if their victims generally have less power and social standing than the tormentor. The basic hallmark of assholes is "kiss up, kick down." Does the alleged asshole persistently leave the person he interacts with feeling worse about him- or herself?

Hundreds of cross-disciplinary studies have attempted to define practices that lead to greater productivity. Supportive, warm work environments that reward risk-taking and creative thinking are often most productive. Assholes utterly destroy creative, supportive, productive teams and create a contagion of anger, resentment, and bad behavior. The more powerful the asshole, and the longer his or her behavior goes unaddressed, the more widespread the effects, and the harder to recover from.

Sutton writes, "Research on everything from student groups to top management teams reveals that constructive arguments over ideas -- but not nasty personal arguments -- drives greater performance, especially when teams do non-routine work."

Certain industries in particular are haunted by the myth of the "temperamental rock star", which misleads companies into hiring and retaining -- with gritted teeth and clenched fists -- assholes who put up good numbers. They're often considered part of the price of doing business.

Sutton writes, "There is so much evidence that civilized workplaces are not a naive dream, that they do exist, and that pervasive contempt can be replaced with mutual respect when a team or organization is managed right -- and civilized workplaces usually enjoy superior performance as well."

There is hope. The workplace is changing as the nature of our work shifts more to knowledge work requiring good interpersonal relations and teamwork. Owners and management are paying attention. For example, Virgin founder Richard Branson devised a test to avoid assholes; he dressed as a chauffeur and picked up candidates personally. Other companies are actively training HR and other hiring professionals to weed out asshole candidates.

In the meantime, Sutton recommends you ask yourself: "Am I part of the problem, or part of the solution?" Your answer may determine the course of your career.

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